Tag: passion

You Can Have Sex Or You Can Have a Pleasure-Filled Sexual Experience

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As a therapist who helps people address problems affecting their relationships & sex lives, one of the most common issues I see is people focusing more on the act of sex versus the experience of being sexual.

What’s the difference?

A LOT.

Most people have a very limited vision of sex that is made up of some form of penetration topped off with an orgasm and maybe some foreplay somewhere in there…maybe.  

If there’s enough time & energy, right?

Now before you get upset with me, I’m not suggesting that either has to be off the sexy time menu.

Not at all.

What I am suggesting is that you expand your definition to include more pleasure-filled experiences.

Does that mean swinging from the chandeliers?< ...

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  • Couples
  • Pleasure
  • Relationships
  • Sex Education
  • Sex Therapy
  • Sexual Pain
  • Sexuality

Tags:

  • couples therapy
  • female sexual pain
  • houston therapy
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • passion
  • relationships
  • sexless marriage
  • sexual health
  • sexual intimacy
  • vaginismus
  • vulvodynia
  • women's sexual health

It's Time to Start Prioritizing Your Pleasure & Sexy Time

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Remember the beginning of your relationship when everything was fun and exciting?  

You & your honey would spend hours chatting on the phone having deep conversations about nothing, yet you couldn’t hang up.

"You hang up first...no, you hang up first."  

You’d count the days down to the weekend because you’d finally get to see one another.  When the time came, you made sure you looked and smelled delicious because the weekend was sure to include a considerable amount of sexy time (as my colleague & friend Dr. Uchenna Ossai, aka YouSeeLogic, likes to call it .   

Woo!  The good ole days.   

So what happened?  

Where did the fire go?  

Where are all the “spontaneous” hot and heavy moments that stayed on your mind ...

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  • Couples
  • Marriage
  • Pleasure
  • PreMarital
  • Relationships
  • Sex Education
  • Sex Therapy
  • Sexuality
  • Women

Tags:

  • communication
  • connection
  • couples therapy
  • desire
  • gap in desire
  • houston therapy
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • passion
  • relationship care
  • relationships
  • sexless marriage
  • sexual intimacy
  • women's sexual health

2018: Relationship Goals | Pleasure Goals

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2018: THE YEAR OF INTENTION

Happy New Year!

It's that time of the year where we set all kinds of lofty resolutions because we want life to be different. 

We want to be better versions of ourselves.  So why is it by February we're back to the same ole same ole?

Probably because, although, we start off with high hopes we rarely have a real PLAN. 

What we need to set are goals.  

Goals are accompanied with a plan, a deadline, and ways to measure our progress.

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  • Couples
  • Holidays
  • Marriage
  • Pleasure
  • Relationships
  • Self-Care
  • Sex Therapy

Tags:

  • New Year
  • communication
  • connection
  • couples therapy
  • desire
  • houston therapy
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • passion
  • relationship care
  • relationships
  • self-care
  • sexless marriage
  • sexual health

The Passion is Gone

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One of the most common complaints I hear as a couples therapist is about the lack of passion in relationships, especially, long-term relationships.

There is often a great deal of love, respect, and admiration, but the fire has dwindled.

Couples don't just want more sex, they want more passionate sex.

My heart goes out to them as they struggle to understand how this happens when they still find themselves in love and happy with their partner, but the thrill is gone.

Most often they have resigned to the belief that it is impossible to maintain passion & eroticism in a long-term relationship.  And although it's true that relationships will change over time, eroticism & passion do not have to disappear.

Over the next few weeks, I will give some tips on how to begin reigniting the flames ...

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Posted in:

  • Marriage
  • Relationships
  • Sex Education
  • Sex Education
  • Sex Therapy
  • Sexuality

Tags:

  • communication
  • couples therapy
  • gap in desire
  • grief
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • passion
  • relationship books
  • relationships
  • sexless marriage

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