Tag: grief

5 Things to Consider If You're Shaming Yourself for Staying After Being Cheated On

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Remember when you used to think, “If they ever did that to me, I’d be out the door—no questions asked.  There’s no way I’d put up with that.”

You used to hear stories of betrayal and wonder how anyone could ever stay after infidelity.

After Beyoncé dropped the Lemonade album, people everywhere wondered how Beyoncé could possibly stay.  I mean, after all, she's Beyoncé, right?

“No way,” you thought--no way you'd stay.

So now that you’re sitting here, dazed, confused, and heart-broken after finding out a ...

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  • Boundaries
  • Couples
  • Infidelity
  • Relationships

Tags:

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  • attachment
  • attachment
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  • boundaries
  • break-up
  • cheating
  • clinicians of color
  • communication
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  • connection
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  • couples therapy
  • grief
  • houston therapy
  • infidelity
  • marriage counseling
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  • relationship care
  • relationships
  • self-care

The Passion is Gone

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One of the most common complaints I hear as a couples therapist is about the lack of passion in relationships, especially, long-term relationships.

There is often a great deal of love, respect, and admiration, but the fire has dwindled.

Couples don't just want more sex, they want more passionate sex.

My heart goes out to them as they struggle to understand how this happens when they still find themselves in love and happy with their partner, but the thrill is gone.

Most often they have resigned to the belief that it is impossible to maintain passion & eroticism in a long-term relationship.  And although it's true that relationships will change over time, eroticism & passion do not have to disappear.

Over the next few weeks, I will give some tips on how to begin reigniting the flames ...

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Posted in:

  • Marriage
  • Relationships
  • Sex Education
  • Sex Education
  • Sex Therapy
  • Sexuality

Tags:

  • communication
  • couples therapy
  • gap in desire
  • grief
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • passion
  • relationship books
  • relationships
  • sexless marriage

Dear Mama: Four Ways to Mother Yourself On Mother's Day

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Four Ways to Mother Yourself on Mother's Day

This Sunday, Mother’s Day, many will celebrate motherhood. 

Mothers will be asked to take a break and will be treated to extra attention.

They will be thanked for their endless devotion to their families and reminded that their efforts are not in vain.  

Thank you for being so selfless, Mamas.

But just like any other holiday, some people dread the pending day because their relationship with their mother or motherhood is a reminder of deep pain

Maybe you’re one of those people.

Mother’s Day may be a cruel reminder that the mother you once loved so profoundly is now gone.  All that is left are memories and steadfast grief.

Missing Her is as tough as ever.

Maybe Mother was never there; she exited a long time ...

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Posted in:

  • Childhood
  • Family of Origin
  • Motherhood
  • Parenting
  • Trauma

Tags:

  • abandonment
  • abuse
  • attachment
  • boundaries
  • depression
  • family of origin
  • grief
  • parenting
  • relationships
  • self-care
  • trauma

Self-Care When The World Feels Unsafe

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SELF-CARE WHEN THE WORLD FEELS UNSAFE

What a challenging time to be alive.

[sigh]

All the violence this week has left many of us experiencing intense & overwhelming emotions--not knowing how to manage the heaviness in our hearts. Before continuing our desire series we wanted to address the collective grief & trauma many are experiencing today.

During times of despair, it's common to overlook our self-care.  Poor self-care can contribute to our state of unease and even lower our immune system.  Though these few isolated activities won't solve the tremendous problems we're facing they may better equip us to be part of the solution.  

If the emotions ...

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  • Self-Care

Tags:

  • anxiety
  • boundaries
  • depression
  • grief
  • relationships
  • self-care
  • world events

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