Tag: boundaries

Maybe It's You: Signs That You May Be Playing The Victim

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It's never easy to admit when we're wrong.

Trust me.

Not even Your Favorite Therapist enjoys the taste of crow when I have to admit that maybe...just maybe...I wasn't right.

O U C H !

It's true enough that there are times when the people in our lives treat us less than the best.

And if you know me by now, I'm B-I-G on setting boundaries and, when necessary, walking away from toxic situations.

However, the challenge is to recognize when we're "playing the victim."

**Before proceeding, let me be crystal clear, "playing the victim" does not apply when we've been violated, abused, traumatized, or victims of any form of violence.  Those situations are violations and fall nowhere near to what I'm discussing.**

Maybe it's easy for you recogni ...

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  • Boundaries
  • Marriage
  • Relationships

Tags:

  • boundaries
  • communication
  • connection
  • houston therapy
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • montrose, houston
  • relationship care
  • relationships

The Celebration of The Strong Silent Woman Never Benefited Women

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Women have always been the cornerstone and anchor in my life.

They have always been the ones to leave the greatest imprint on me, shaping me into the woman I am today.

As a little girl, I'd watch the women in my family as they stayed busy meeting their endless list of responsibilities and care-taking.

I'd watch my mother, aunts, and my Huelita {grandmother} rush from space to space, minute by minute, day by day to finish the work of the day--work that centered around the children, the grandchildren, and a lot of adults, especially, the men.

As a teenager, I remember studying my Huelita.

I watched how she navigated through her day.

It started early in the morning before the crack of dawn--something was going to be swept, be it the inside of the house or the outside. 

I could hear the swoosh, swoosh, swoosh of the b ...

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Posted in:

  • Motherhood
  • Relationships
  • Self-Care
  • Self-Love
  • Women

Tags:

  • boundaries
  • family of origin
  • relationships
  • self-care
  • womens issues

THIS IS WHY YOUR SPIRIT IS ON LIFE SUPPORT

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I know why your spirit feels like it's on life support--why you're drained, exhausted, and frustrated.

You aren't putting YOU on your list of priorities.

It's not your fault though.

Women, especially, are bombarded with shaming messages about taking time for ourselves.

We're made to feel like we're being "selfish" for practicing acts of self-care.

You're not alone.

I may be a therapist, but it took me a LONG time to release the guilt I felt when I started making choices that allowed me to be the best version of ME.

It wasn't until I had my own point of mental, physical, and spiritual burnout that ...

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Posted in:

  • Boundaries
  • Self-Care
  • Self-Love
  • Women

Tags:

  • anxiety
  • boundaries
  • communication
  • montrose, houston
  • self-care
  • trauma

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