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Maybe It's You: Signs That You May Be Playing The Victim

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It's never easy to admit when we're wrong.

Trust me.

Not even Your Favorite Therapist enjoys the taste of crow when I have to admit that maybe...just maybe...I wasn't right.

O U C H !

It's true enough that there are times when the people in our lives treat us less than the best.

And if you know me by now, I'm B-I-G on setting boundaries and, when necessary, walking away from toxic situations.

However, the challenge is to recognize when we're "playing the victim."

**Before proceeding, let me be crystal clear, "playing the victim" does not apply when we've been violated, abused, traumatized, or victims of any form of violence.  Those situations are violations and fall nowhere near to what I'm discussing.**

Maybe it's easy for you recogni ...

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  • Boundaries
  • Marriage
  • Relationships

Tags:

  • boundaries
  • communication
  • connection
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  • marriage counseling
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  • montrose, houston
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You Can Have Sex Or You Can Have a Pleasure-Filled Sexual Experience

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As a therapist who helps people address problems affecting their relationships & sex lives, one of the most common issues I see is people focusing more on the act of sex versus the experience of being sexual.

What’s the difference?

A LOT.

Most people have a very limited vision of sex that is made up of some form of penetration topped off with an orgasm and maybe some foreplay somewhere in there…maybe.  

If there’s enough time & energy, right?

Now before you get upset with me, I’m not suggesting that either has to be off the sexy time menu.

Not at all.

What I am suggesting is that you expand your definition to include more pleasure-filled experiences.

Does that mean swinging from the chandeliers?< ...

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Posted in:

  • Couples
  • Pleasure
  • Relationships
  • Sex Education
  • Sex Therapy
  • Sexual Pain
  • Sexuality

Tags:

  • couples therapy
  • female sexual pain
  • houston therapy
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • passion
  • relationships
  • sexless marriage
  • sexual health
  • sexual intimacy
  • vaginismus
  • vulvodynia
  • women's sexual health

5 Things to Consider If You're Shaming Yourself for Staying After Being Cheated On

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Remember when you used to think, “If they ever did that to me, I’d be out the door—no questions asked.  There’s no way I’d put up with that.”

You used to hear stories of betrayal and wonder how anyone could ever stay after infidelity.

After Beyoncé dropped the Lemonade album, people everywhere wondered how Beyoncé could possibly stay.  I mean, after all, she's Beyoncé, right?

“No way,” you thought--no way you'd stay.

So now that you’re sitting here, dazed, confused, and heart-broken after finding out a ...

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  • Couples
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  • Relationships

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  • boundaries
  • break-up
  • cheating
  • clinicians of color
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  • connection
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  • couples therapy
  • grief
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  • marriage counseling
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