Maybe It's You: Signs That You May Be Playing The Victim

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It's never easy to admit when we're wrong.

Trust me.

Not even Your Favorite Therapist enjoys the taste of crow when I have to admit that maybe...just maybe...I wasn't right.

O U C H !

It's true enough that there are times when the people in our lives treat us less than the best.

And if you know me by now, I'm B-I-G on setting boundaries and, when necessary, walking away from toxic situations.

However, the challenge is to recognize when we're "playing the victim."

**Before proceeding, let me be crystal clear, "playing the victim" does not apply when we've been violated, abused, traumatized, or victims of any form of violence.  Those situations are violations and fall nowhere near to what I'm discussing.**

Maybe it's easy for you recogni ...

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  • Boundaries
  • Marriage
  • Relationships

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  • boundaries
  • communication
  • connection
  • houston therapy
  • marriage counseling
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  • montrose, houston
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The Celebration of The Strong Silent Woman Never Benefited Women

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Women have always been the cornerstone and anchor in my life.

They have always been the ones to leave the greatest imprint on me, shaping me into the woman I am today.

As a little girl, I'd watch the women in my family as they stayed busy meeting their endless list of responsibilities and care-taking.

I'd watch my mother, aunts, and my Huelita {grandmother} rush from space to space, minute by minute, day by day to finish the work of the day--work that centered around the children, the grandchildren, and a lot of adults, especially, the men.

As a teenager, I remember studying my Huelita.

I watched how she navigated through her day.

It started early in the morning before the crack of dawn--something was going to be swept, be it the inside of the house or the outside. 

I could hear the swoosh, swoosh, swoosh of the b ...

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  • Motherhood
  • Relationships
  • Self-Care
  • Self-Love
  • Women

Tags:

  • boundaries
  • family of origin
  • relationships
  • self-care
  • womens issues

Here's Why I Refuse to Lie About My Age

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Yesterday, I celebrated my 42nd birthday.

42 on 4/4.

42 years of LIFE, Folks!

I have no issue letting people know my age and it always amuses me when people delicately approach the topic.

They'll jokingly say things like, "So what's it like to be turning 30 again," or "How many times is this celebrating your 21st again?"

I'll giggle and respond with, "It feels great to be turning..." the actual age I'm celebrating.

Birthdays, especially for women, can be a really sensitive topic because our culture does not celebrate or embrace aging women, particularly, the ones that do not age gracefully.

Somehow women past 30 slowly begin to fade into the background and lose their value unless they've been gifted with the aging process of J-Lo or Angela Bassett.

Women whose looks seem to defy the aging process seem ...

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  • Self-Care
  • Self-Care
  • Self-Love
  • Self-Love
  • Women
  • aging

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  • self-care
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