Category: Boundaries

Why You Should Never Shame Your Partner About These Three Sex Topics

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As a Relationship & Sex Therapist, I help people daily who are struggling with their relationships & sex lives.  Quite often, shame is at the root of their struggle. 

Their shame may be rooted in early childhood experiences and sometimes it's a result of sexuality struggles as an adult. 

By the time they come to see me, the shame may have trickled into their relationship, blocking their ability to enjoy healthy sex lives together. 

The most troubling situations are when partners have begun to sexually shame one another. 

Sometimes it's a result of frustration and anger and sometimes it's, merely, a result of misinformation. 

The most challenging scenarios are when shaming has transformed into ongoing verbal, emotional, and/or physical abuse.

Her ...

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  • Boundaries
  • Couples
  • Marriage
  • Pleasure
  • PreMarital
  • Relationships
  • Sex Therapy
  • Sexuality

Tags:

  • boundaries
  • couples therapy
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • montrose, houston
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  • sexless marriage
  • sexual health
  • sexual intimacy

Maybe It's You: Signs That You May Be Playing The Victim

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It's never easy to admit when we're wrong.

Trust me.

Not even Your Favorite Therapist enjoys the taste of crow when I have to admit that maybe...just maybe...I wasn't right.

O U C H !

It's true enough that there are times when the people in our lives treat us less than the best.

And if you know me by now, I'm B-I-G on setting boundaries and, when necessary, walking away from toxic situations.

However, the challenge is to recognize when we're "playing the victim."

**Before proceeding, let me be crystal clear, "playing the victim" does not apply when we've been violated, abused, traumatized, or victims of any form of violence.  Those situations are violations and fall nowhere near to what I'm discussing.**

Maybe it's easy for you recogni ...

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Posted in:

  • Boundaries
  • Marriage
  • Relationships

Tags:

  • boundaries
  • communication
  • connection
  • houston therapy
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • montrose, houston
  • relationship care
  • relationships

THIS IS WHY YOUR SPIRIT IS ON LIFE SUPPORT

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I know why your spirit feels like it's on life support--why you're drained, exhausted, and frustrated.

You aren't putting YOU on your list of priorities.

It's not your fault though.

Women, especially, are bombarded with shaming messages about taking time for ourselves.

We're made to feel like we're being "selfish" for practicing acts of self-care.

You're not alone.

I may be a therapist, but it took me a LONG time to release the guilt I felt when I started making choices that allowed me to be the best version of ME.

It wasn't until I had my own point of mental, physical, and spiritual burnout that ...

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Posted in:

  • Boundaries
  • Self-Care
  • Self-Love
  • Women

Tags:

  • anxiety
  • boundaries
  • communication
  • montrose, houston
  • self-care
  • trauma

5 Things to Consider If You're Shaming Yourself for Staying After Being Cheated On

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Remember when you used to think, “If they ever did that to me, I’d be out the door—no questions asked.  There’s no way I’d put up with that.”

You used to hear stories of betrayal and wonder how anyone could ever stay after infidelity.

After Beyoncé dropped the Lemonade album, people everywhere wondered how Beyoncé could possibly stay.  I mean, after all, she's Beyoncé, right?

“No way,” you thought--no way you'd stay.

So now that you’re sitting here, dazed, confused, and heart-broken after finding out a ...

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  • Boundaries
  • Couples
  • Infidelity
  • Relationships

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  • attachment
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  • boundaries
  • break-up
  • cheating
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  • connection
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