Category: Couples

Why You Should Never Shame Your Partner About These Three Sex Topics

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As a Relationship & Sex Therapist, I help people daily who are struggling with their relationships & sex lives.  Quite often, shame is at the root of their struggle. 

Their shame may be rooted in early childhood experiences and sometimes it's a result of sexuality struggles as an adult. 

By the time they come to see me, the shame may have trickled into their relationship, blocking their ability to enjoy healthy sex lives together. 

The most troubling situations are when partners have begun to sexually shame one another. 

Sometimes it's a result of frustration and anger and sometimes it's, merely, a result of misinformation. 

The most challenging scenarios are when shaming has transformed into ongoing verbal, emotional, and/or physical abuse.

Her ...

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You Can Have Sex Or You Can Have a Pleasure-Filled Sexual Experience

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As a therapist who helps people address problems affecting their relationships & sex lives, one of the most common issues I see is people focusing more on the act of sex versus the experience of being sexual.

What’s the difference?

A LOT.

Most people have a very limited vision of sex that is made up of some form of penetration topped off with an orgasm and maybe some foreplay somewhere in there…maybe.  

If there’s enough time & energy, right?

Now before you get upset with me, I’m not suggesting that either has to be off the sexy time menu.

Not at all.

What I am suggesting is that you expand your definition to include more pleasure-filled experiences.

Does that mean swinging from the chandeliers?< ...

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  • Sex Therapy
  • Sexual Pain
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5 Things to Consider If You're Shaming Yourself for Staying After Being Cheated On

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Remember when you used to think, “If they ever did that to me, I’d be out the door—no questions asked.  There’s no way I’d put up with that.”

You used to hear stories of betrayal and wonder how anyone could ever stay after infidelity.

After Beyoncé dropped the Lemonade album, people everywhere wondered how Beyoncé could possibly stay.  I mean, after all, she's Beyoncé, right?

“No way,” you thought--no way you'd stay.

So now that you’re sitting here, dazed, confused, and heart-broken after finding out a ...

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