Why You Should Never Shame Your Partner About These Three Sex Topics

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As a Relationship & Sex Therapist, I help people daily who are struggling with their relationships & sex lives.  Quite often, shame is at the root of their struggle. 

Their shame may be rooted in early childhood experiences and sometimes it's a result of sexuality struggles as an adult. 

By the time they come to see me, the shame may have trickled into their relationship, blocking their ability to enjoy healthy sex lives together. 

The most troubling situations are when partners have begun to sexually shame one another. 

Sometimes it's a result of frustration and anger and sometimes it's, merely, a result of misinformation. 

The most challenging scenarios are when shaming has transformed into ongoing verbal, emotional, and/or physical abuse.

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  • Boundaries
  • Couples
  • Marriage
  • Pleasure
  • PreMarital
  • Relationships
  • Sex Therapy
  • Sexuality

Tags:

  • boundaries
  • couples therapy
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • montrose, houston
  • relationship care
  • relationships
  • sexless marriage
  • sexual health
  • sexual intimacy

Maybe It's You: Signs That You May Be Playing The Victim

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It's never easy to admit when we're wrong.

Trust me.

Not even Your Favorite Therapist enjoys the taste of crow when I have to admit that maybe...just maybe...I wasn't right.

O U C H !

It's true enough that there are times when the people in our lives treat us less than the best.

And if you know me by now, I'm B-I-G on setting boundaries and, when necessary, walking away from toxic situations.

However, the challenge is to recognize when we're "playing the victim."

**Before proceeding, let me be crystal clear, "playing the victim" does not apply when we've been violated, abused, traumatized, or victims of any form of violence.  Those situations are violations and fall nowhere near to what I'm discussing.**

Maybe it's easy for you recogni ...

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  • Boundaries
  • Marriage
  • Relationships

Tags:

  • boundaries
  • communication
  • connection
  • houston therapy
  • marriage counseling
  • marriage therapy
  • montrose, houston
  • relationship care
  • relationships

The Celebration of The Strong Silent Woman Never Benefited Women

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Women have always been the cornerstone and anchor in my life.

They have always been the ones to leave the greatest imprint on me, shaping me into the woman I am today.

As a little girl, I'd watch the women in my family as they stayed busy meeting their endless list of responsibilities and care-taking.

I'd watch my mother, aunts, and my Huelita {grandmother} rush from space to space, minute by minute, day by day to finish the work of the day--work that centered around the children, the grandchildren, and a lot of adults, especially, the men.

As a teenager, I remember studying my Huelita.

I watched how she navigated through her day.

It started early in the morning before the crack of dawn--something was going to be swept, be it the inside of the house or the outside. 

I could hear the swoosh, swoosh, swoosh of the b ...

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Posted in:

  • Motherhood
  • Relationships
  • Self-Care
  • Self-Love
  • Women

Tags:

  • boundaries
  • family of origin
  • relationships
  • self-care
  • womens issues

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